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A self-guided reflection experience



This is for you if:

  • you came to a relationship young, before you fully knew who you were.
  • you’ve felt like you were not allowed to be your own person.
  • your individuality got swallowed up by the chaos and drama of your relationship.

Whether you’re still in it or finding your way out – you belong here.


Seven gentle reflections, taken entirely at your own pace. Each one meets you
where you are and helps you hear your own voice again – perhaps for the first
time. There are no right answers, nothing you’re required to feel, and no
conclusions you’re supposed to reach. You respond however feels safe to you –
a private notebook, a voice memo, or simply quiet thought.

Taken together, these seven reflections aren’t just what you find – they’re the beginning of the story you’re ready to tell about yourself, in your own words, for the first time.


It’s not therapy, and it’s not a program with deadlines. It’s a quiet companion
for reflection – yours to keep and return to whenever you’re ready. Most women move through it slowly, one reflection at a time, with room to breathe in between.


“Thoughtful and intentional with a clear respect for the reader’s experience.
The Going Deeper questions are one of the strongest parts – they encourage readers to slow down and reflect more deeply on their own experiences without telling them what conclusions they should reach, while remaining reflective and respectful toward individual process. The emphasis on self reflection, personal agency, reconnecting to oneself, and moving at your own pace is exactly right.”


The Mini Dig


Your privacy is protected.

  • No account is required to buy.
  • What appears on your statement is neutral and non-identifying.
  • Your delivery email is sent quietly.
  • Your information is never shared or sold.

Need a different arrangement? Reach out – alternate payment, a gift purchase,
a scholarship spot, or a different way to receive it.
No woman is ever turned away for cost.


The First Dig is a free, gentle place to start – one reflection, no commitment.

Would rather not do this alone? This August, I’m opening a small, live gathering – Rise to the Surface – where I guide a group of women through the Mini Dig together, in real time, two sessions, two weeks apart.